Before Voting, Think About Your Daughter

My daughter turned 18 last month and I’m so grateful that she grew up in a country that has been steadily moving towards true equality for women. America’s slow march towards equal rights for all has fostered an environment where young women today, more than any time in history, finally believe they can accomplish anything a man can. Yet here we are, just a few days before one of the most important presidential elections in our country’s history, and we’re on the precipice of electing a man who will undeniably unravel so much of that progress with his behavior and views.

Despite all of the metrics (unemployment, GDP, etc.) that irrefutably support the notion that our country is in far better health today than it was when President Obama took office eight years ago, a huge percentage of Americans stand ready to elect Donald Trump President, despite all of his obvious flaws. It’s my belief that the undercurrent of this is a deep-rooted fear of globalization that runs through our populace like a live wire and manifests itself in a collective behavior and ideology that is shocking to so many of us.

I believe that 9/11, the Boston Marathon bombings and a few other events have surfaced this deep-rooted fear in us which far eclipses what I experienced growing up during the Cold War. Despite what so many of my successful, left-leaning friends think, that fear doesn’t lie only in the working class and uneducated. I’ve heard a group of ivy-league educated wall street execs tell me they’re voting for Trump and that they hope he “blacktops the middle east” and a tech CEO recently griped to me about paying for health care for “those fucking Mexicans crawling over the border” and how Trump will put an end to that.

Intellectually, I recognize and understand why so many are drawn to him. As much as I disagree with their perspectives, I can at least understand the ignorance driving their fears. When I was growing up, we were brainwashed into thinking that the Russians were evil and had a deep hatred for America. When I visited Russia after the wall came down, of course I quickly realized how wrong that was. I grew up fairly homophobic only to find myself close friends with a man I only later found out was gay. I was forced to reevaluate everything and expand my views. Even as an adult, I took my young daughter to Cambodia with an irrational fear lurking in the back of my mind of having her abducted into the sex trade, a preconceived notion I’m still ashamed of. All of those perspectives were rooted in my ignorance.

What I just can’t get my head around though, is how a father could possibly vote for a man that will undoubtedly enable behavior toward his daughter that would at the very least enrage him and at worst, have him reaching for the nearest shotgun. While it’s beyond my limits of belief, intellectually I can understand how some people might rationalize a vote for Trump. However, I simply cannot understand how a father with a daughter, if he really thinks about it, can cast that ballot.

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There’s no way to deny that Donald Trump is a scumbag when it comes to how he views and treats women (even the men I’ve spoken with who support him agree). I’ve played on sports teams, been in locker rooms and spent a few years living in a testosterone-driven fraternity and while I’ve certainly come across a few guys with Trump’s DNA (not many),  none of them have run for leader of the free world.

When the President of the United States says his vile misogyny is just locker room talk, it’s a message to every man in America that this type of behavior is acceptable. A President who says that you need to “grab ’em by the pussy” will enable and encourage millions of men to treat women far worse than Trump does. Is this really how you want your daughter thought of and spoken to? Is this the world you want your daughter to grow up in? When you stand in front of that ballot on Tuesday, understand that if you vote for Trump, you are complicit in creating a very dangerous environment for your daughter.

I challenge every father of a girl who’s even considering voting for Trump to take a few minutes and think about how he’d react if a man talked about or to his daughter the way Trump talks about women. Before you cast your ballot, talk to your daughter about how Trump’s words make her feel. Look her in the eyes and tell her you’re voting for a man that’s going to encourage behavior that rattles her self-esteem and makes her feel afraid for her safety. Do you want her to grow up in that environment or one where she believes she can even be President of the United States? Have that conversation with her this weekend. She’s your daughter and you know she deserves better.

2 Comments »

  1. Very prescient writing that articulates the dilemma faced by many. We have a choice between a Pinocle and Pinnochio though sadly the winner will become a political pinata.

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  2. This is strong. This is solid.

    I’ve got a girl who is 6 and this makes me think of her.

    I’ve also got a boy who is 6 and this makes me think of making sure he understands what it means to treat women well.

    As a Canadian, I unfortunately do not get to cast a ballot in this one. Here’s hoping it turns out OK.

    Best CM

    On Fri, Nov 4, 2016 at 8:13 AM, To Write Is To Think wrote:

    > Mark Solon posted: “My daughter turned 18 last month and I’m so grateful > that she grew up in a country that has been steadily moving towards true > equality for women. America’s slow march towards equal rights for all has > fostered an environment where young women today, more t” >

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